In our world of staged, ‘reality’ TV – I’m alarmed at the new trend in mothering to portray ourselves as … ‘real’. Let me get this straight, the the world is telling US to be real? Is there a role in life that faces reality (on a daily basis) more than mothering? We must be a culture that is so far removed from suffering that we’ve redefined the word ‘real’. Or, maybe ‘real’ is the wrong mantra, for the definition of ‘real’ is … “genuine” and “true”. I’m all for avoiding a facade – but elaborating on the sacrifices of mothering while leaving out the glories is … a mistake.
The opposite is also true – if we choose to live in a fairly tale world, projecting our life as problem-free, this is delusional and we may have a deep need to be better than those around us. Pretend is for children – that’s not real life either.
Is mothering hard? -uhhh -yea – Harder than one can envision or imagine. Is it full of wonder and joys? Yes, beyond our wildest dreams! Thus, the title of this blog – “but to Him who is able to do above and beyond what we ask of think – be the glory in our hearts, homes and to the next generation”. Ephesians 3:20-21
How did our grandmothers – or greatgrandmothers – deal with this? My Great Grandma – Lillie Carey (isn’t that a great name?) was left by her husband (grrrrr…) to raise their 6 children alone … during the Great Depression! She was an example of strength and honor and I loved her dearly. I remember hearing how she loved the Lord and how He cared for her every need. She worked like a Trojan and spoke like an angel. I have her china that she bought – one piece at a time – from the corner grocery throughout the years. An heirloom, indeed!
Since you’re reading this blog, you probably don’t have a problem with this. But the culture is moving this direction and it’s bound to influence us at some level.
I’d love to hear your thoughts!
BTW – I’m reading along with my little guys after making a course correction. It’s been good – reeeeal good!