Where are you in the journey?
- If you’re starting out, you’ll need to develop a style that will carry you throughout the years to come.
- If you’re in the middle years you may need perspective. Look back at how far you’ve come!
- If you’re near the end of your journey, you need a big heart to absorb all the Lord has done and a clear mind to walk in freedom. The past can easily entangle us and give more excuses to worry and harbor unforgiveness.
Need perspective? Take out a pen and paper – draw a timeline. Write the ages of your children.
Our family’s needs differ through the seasons.
Little ones need consistent days and a predictable life. We show them security with our presence and orchestrate days they use to build their lives upon. Long days and short nights require a swift pace for mom – know it’s temporary. Adult conversations are rare. Save your deepest thoughts for journals, husband, friends, and family. Meanwhile, these days can make up the loneliest years of your life as a mom – but not for long. Hang in there mom – day after day – the road is long and monotonous. Keep the pace and a new, rich season will emerge for you and your family.
Middle ones need our minds. We get to hear their hearts – so be ready to listen. Close your computer screen, put down the phone and look into their eyes. You’ll see a curious mind and a world of questions waiting to be answered. Pace your days to engage your adolescents and preteens – you’ll never regret what you put aside and the payoff is a lifetime of knowing this individual. Our kids hear the same lies from the devil that we struggle with. Be the first to remind your preteens you’re for them, you believe in them, and admire who they are. Building a relationship takes a new level of flexibility on our part. This season makes up the busiest years of our lives as mothers. The road may be bumpy – but the path is short.
Older ones need freedoms to express themselves. Cheer them on! Attend their events. Allow them to fail and be there when they try again. Help them be comfortable with imperfections. You’ll want your teen to learn this lesson in your home and not in the world. Pace your life to be available for your teens with a comfortable distance they can enjoy. Give them space to breathe and make sure they know you’re for them. Capture the memories of years gone by in these, the quietest years of motherhood. The road is steady and uphill, but adulthood lies ahead. You’ll all emerge into a new place once you’ve pressed through this season. But the race is far from over.
Adulthood and grandchildren bring us full circle back to the place we began, but older and wiser. Save your energy to enjoy your children as adults. Work to build a relationship that spans the distance of your lifetime. Plan to leave footprints for the next generation of mothers to follow.
We all want to finish strong. Let’s do the hard work of pacing ourselves today so that we can breathe tomorrow and fully embrace the years to come.