Dear Mama –
You were specifically designed to mother your own children. Make it your quest to learn who you are and become secure in your mothering journey.
I’m still surprised the Lord chose me to mother this family. Even though I had little background in nurturing other people, He gifted me with children who depended on me for their very life. There were many one-way conversations from me to God. I reminded Him how I wasn’t cut out for this job – it was too big and I was underqualified.
The truth is – we all fall short.
Continuing the analogy of mothering and a marathon runner – in athletics, a weakness can be transformed into an advantage. Athletes must be aware of their weaknesses and ultimately use innate limitations to fit them for the road ahead. Coaches have runners identify strengths and weaknesses and form a plan to develop both. Just like an awkward stride can lead to agility, physical differences can set runners apart from the crowd. A serious marathoner races mostly against herself, especially those who plan to run the long haul and finish strong.
What would our world be like if we followed the same advice in motherhood?
Most of us know our weaknesses all too well, but our strengths are more evident to others. Here’s an idea: Ask a few friends what your strengths are. What sets you apart from the norm? Seriously, you have a unique advantage in mothering that others don’t have. Friends see us differently than we see ourselves and may be more objective than our own family members. Ask a friend – you’ll be encouraged to learn you have more natural ability than you realize.
Next, focus on your strengths while working on your weak areas. Over time, you’ll see a rhythm of energy unique only to you.
Avoid the trap of comparison and keep focused. Over time you’ll develop skills that carry you twenty more years down the path of mothering, with the grace and strength you long for.
Your personal style
“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness” II Corinthians 12:9
But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the exceeding greatness of the power may be of God, and not from ourselves; persecuted, yet not abandoned; struck down, yet not destroyed … II Corinthians 4:8-9
Although the race is a journey personal to you – know that you’re not alone.
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